I was his supervisor. He was new to the area. He didn’t know many people.
Work didn’t provide me a work phone so I had to use my personal phone. First it was conversations about his wife how they weren’t doing good. Saying I was one of his closest friends. Then the texts started.
Then he had me and my bf over with him and his wife for drinks. I didn’t notice till my bf pointed it out. He won’t let me alone with his wife he didn’t like that we had things is common. He followed us around.
Then came Valentine’s Day. He gave me a card and chocolates. The card said how it was from him and his wife but mostly him. Also made a dig that my bf didnt get me anything. I assumed all the females got a valentine. No just me.
His wife had only fans he showed her page to everyone at work including clients.
We had a huge incident as work. He made bad decisions. Myself and management had to fix it and he was spoken too. Apparently he had had many threats to his coworkers about getting me back. They went to management. No one told me!
He was texting me things that were triggering (I have CPTSD from ex husband- he was aware) and not appropriate as I was his supervisor not his friend. Gaslighting me I went to my director and showed her and requested a work phone so I could block him from my personal one. I told her how inappropriate and how uncomfortable I was. I was told she would work on getting me one. So I had to keep getting the messages cause I was his supervisor and couldn’t block him
Myself and 3 coworkers all females were going to a drag show. I got them tickets for their birthdays. He found this out and showed up with his wife and a male friend.
We purposely sat at a table for 4 us he couldn’t join us. This didn’t stop him from coming over to us constantly.
Us girls were having a good time it started at 830 pm. We took turns going to get drinks. One of the girls didnt drink. I thought she had bought the last round before she left. He did. This was about 10.
Our sober friend left. He didn’t know which one was mine.
I sat back to the table at I seen an old friend she sat with me. At 10:15 I remember wondering where my other 2 friends went. I got up to look. I remember going down the stairs. Then nothing ….
Till 11:30 am the next morning. I woke up in my own bed with the same clothes on. No idea how I got home, couldn’t believe I lost 13 hours of time. I never blacked out before.
I went downstairs and asked my bf why he wasn’t up with me. He said to be I can’t believe you even ask me that? He was so angry he won’t even speak to me.
I texted my friends. They too couldn’t remember anything.
One passed out in the bathroom of the bar and some sweet girl found her and managed to get her phone unlocked and called her bf to get her. She said she was throwing up for the last few hours and can’t remember anything.
Second friend said she apparently FaceTimed her friend cause she couldn’t find us and her legs felt funny so she lucky FaceTimed a friend who made her get a taxi and stayed on the phone. Lucky for her the cab driver took her phone when she passed out in the cab. Her friend watched him get her in the house. She woke up on her couch and her friend filled her in.
I checked my account I spend 60. One round was 40. 20 when to the drag queen.
I messaged him and asked him what happened. He said he found me in an alleyway alone. I had called him crying cause I couldn’t find my friends. Apparently he got me and him, his wife and buddy went to another club. I kept drinking apparently; but my bank account didn’t show me spending anything else.
He said his buddy was sober and he drove us to his house. Why? Cause he didn’t trust my bf to look after me and I was too drunk. He was worried about me. Apparently I tried to fight him in his yard.
He knew where I lived. He knew my bf, he knew my friends . He didn’t attempt to contact anyone or bring me home. He had to pass my area of town to get to his place.
Not sure of the timing exactly of how long I was at his house before I called my bf over and over till I finally woke him up. My bf said I wasn’t making much sense I was slurring my words and I was upset.
He took the phone told my bf I was at his place and how drunk I was.
My bf said when he arrived he was outside waiting, trying to explain what happened. My bf found me downstairs in his basement. This is where the setup was for his collections, his instruments, etc is. I was in the middle of the floor passed out. Him, his wife and buddy were there.
He had to carry me to the car and again into the house. Apparently I was fighting him one second and passed out the next.
I blamed myself I must have drank too much, maybe it’s the medication Im taking. My bf blamed me. He assumed I did something.
We 3 were so embarrassed we didn’t even speak about it to each other.
Until he showed up to work trying to show coworkers and clients videos of me making out with his wife. He showed up to work drunk and said nothing can happen to him cause he had stuff on me.
We finally talked. We realized we must have been drugged by him. We all checked our accounts no else spend more then $50. No pictures taken after 10.
What were on the videos? Did he put them on their old fans page?
That sober friend went to management and explained the whole thing. As we worked in a shelter- so the most vulnerable people.
Do you know how embarrassing it is to sit now with your director and manager to explain how you blacked out? How you think coworker drugged you?
Little did we know that there were complaints come in from security company regarding his inappropriate behaviour. That he had porn on the work company and clients had said they sent naked pictures of his wife. He was fired.
One of my managers was a former cop, he sat with him and helped me call our local sexual assault team.
It was investigated. If was him, his wife and his buddy versus me! He said I kept drinking, I had taken weed edibles.
It was a week after. So going to the hospital to get blood work or exam was pointless.
I had to tell my story to multiple cops. And for what? To be told I was drunk. That they asked him to delete the videos.
To this day I still have no idea what happened? If the videos were put online?
I was 38 I believe at the time. I was a supervisor at a shelter, an educated professional. He was a coworker. I was with friends.
As females we are vulnerable no matter what!
I am Jane Doe!